Tips For Plus Size Online Dating

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Have you ever thought about online dating?  I’m going to dip my toe into the dating pool again.  I’ve been so focused on my blog and working 9-5pm dating has been the last thing on my mind.  I created this blog post on Tips For Plus Size Online Dating as a refresher for myself and a push for another looking to join me.  Maybe I could start us new daters a Facebook group?

 

 

Below are 10 tips for plus size dating. By the time you read this, I’ll have my profile up.  Wish me luck!

  1. Don’t waste time on the wrong online dating app.  Some apps have a hook-up only reputation.  If that’s not what you’re looking for I would stay away from those apps.  We’re all adults here you know what apps I’m talking about.
  2. A picture is worth a 1,000 word.  Use clear photos.  Don’t fill up your online dating profile with tons of pictures.  It’s not Instagram.  I selected 5 pics max.  Face shot, sitting shot, 3 full body shots.  Rect pictures in different outfits are best.  Make sure no one else is in the photos. All photos taken by DeeXDee.  Styling by TFGOF,
  3. Select an appropriate username.  Remember you get from the world what you put out into the world.  If you don’t want a ton of spam messages about sex I would stay away from usernames like bigtittykitty or lilmzonlinesexy.
  4. Be honest in your bio.  Be honest from the beginning!  Lying about your age, what you do, or that you’re not really single is a no-no.  I wouldn’t put all my business out there but being untruthful is never the way.
  5.  Know what you want and don’t lower your standards.  We can’t just go for the first notification that comes our way.  With that said being said be realistic with what you want.  I don’t think Idris Elba will be sliding in my DMs.  But a can dream right!
  6. Be prepared to have something to say.  At this point, you have a choice to make.  How long do you plan on messaging before a meeting?  Are you here for a date or catfishing online messaging romance.
  7. Don’t share your other social media info.  You don’t want random people visiting your Facebook or Instagram without your knowledge.  It’s also a safety issue.  You’re a big fine woman who doesn’t need a stalker.
  8. Remember this should suppose to be fun.  Don’t get obsessed with one person.  Sis we’re not going to be waiting by the computer.
  9. This shouldn’t have to be said but I feel I must.  Don’t send money!  While you’re looking for love some are looking for a victim.
  10. Lastly, don’t let what others have to say get you down.  There are internet trolls everywhere.  Remember you have all the power and it’s called the delete button!

 

I received the featured look compliments of the ASOS, however; All opinions are my own

Hope this post offers some encouragement for those looking for love online.  I’ll report back in a month with my results.  Maybe a post of preparing for an online date.  Have you ever online dated?  Leave me some of your tips in the comments…..

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The Makossa Cookout |Miller Lite #KickbackSeries .........“When I said I wanted to go out and eat; I didn’t mean a cookout” thefatgirloffashion

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The Makossa Cookout began in 2010 as an intimate affair in small Brooklyn, New York backyard. Since then, the party has enjoyed a rapid, organic growth, expanded to Los Angeles and is now a premier summer destination on both coasts. Makossa Cookouts features live DJs spinning a balanced mix of hip-hop, R&B, Latin, reggae, electronic, and dance music. It is their ability to traverse many genres that’s their trademark and biggest appeal. Drinks, games, and a food menu featuring the best of what summertime has to offer rounds out the experience.  Before I go any further, please be aware that this was not your garden variety day drinking party.

 

 

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The Makossa Cookout brought their party to Chicago along with the good people of the Miller Lite.  We had a day that was full of good music, good food and good vibes at the Wise Owl.  The event was hosted by Dee Phunk.  There were 5 DJs!  Four of the DJs were from their Brooklyn and Los Angeles crews.  They also had Chicago’s own King Marie. They brought the Midwest vibe full circle with Detroit’s Waajeed as a special headliner.  Waajeed is a music producer, and one-half of the hip hop and R&B group Platinum Pied Pipers, and a founding member of Tiny Hearts.  

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The food was amazing and of course, we loved the Miller Lite drinks.

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2017 ULTIMATE BUCKET LIST OF PLUS SIZE EVENTS

plus size event“So when you ask me how I’m so confident, I know what you’re really asking me: How could someone like me be confident? Go ask Rihanna, a**hole!” _ Gabby SidiBae

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A bucket list a number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime.  Experiences that need to be done in order for a person to feel like their life is complete.

Curvy girls love to get dressed, travel, eat, drink and be merry.  If you’re looking to have a good time with other fashion divas you’ve became friends with over social media.  Maybe you want to meetsome of your favorite Youtuber or blogger.  How about a road trip?  If this is you then:

I present you with the curvy girl’s ultimate bucket list of plus size events for 2017

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PHAT Girl Fresh Presents Life Styled

Atlanta, GA.  April 28 & 29, 2017

Maui Bigelow said watching the way other women style their lives is what led me to structure and name her brand’s annual PHAT Girl Fresh Presents Life Styled.  This two day event honors women who styled their lives in a manner which proved to be a source of empowerment for themselves and other women.  Get more information here.

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FFFWEEK

New York, NY.  June 11-17, 2017

Gwen DeVoe started FFFWEEK eight years ago with a partnership of 12 brands and approximately 200 guests attending three small events and one large runway show.  Now this week long celebration of everything  related to the plus size lifestyle has expanded to include over 100 partners, including sponsors, independent designers, retailers, boutiques, fashion bloggers, small businesses and other industry professionals.  From the Curves at Sea cruise to the Runway showcase & Industry Awards there’s something happen throughout the week for every curvy girl.  Get more information here.

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TCFStyle Expo

Atlanta, GA.  July 28 & 29, 2017

Marie Denee is the creator and founder of the TCFStyle Expo.  She wanted to bring her blog to life with a full weekend of plus size fashion!  There’ll be 60+ vendors, conference of panels and workshops.  Plus playful fashion shows! Two days of sipping and shopping while socializing with various plus size fashion, beauty, and lifestyle brands!  Get more information here.

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THECURVYCON

New York, NY.  September 8 & 9, 2017

Dynamic duo Chastity Garner and CeCe Olisa are the masterminds behind theCURVYcon.  A two day event that brings plus size Brands, Fashionistas, Shopaholics, Bloggers and YouTubers into one space, to chat curvy, shop curvy and embrace curvy.  Embrace your curves while doing a little shopping, and tackling topics like confidence, fashion and style, health, fitness, dating, body positivity and everything in between! Get more information here.

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You can submit your plus size event to be added to this list by emailing latoya@thefatgirloffashion.com

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7 Plus Size Bloggers say “I’m A Carefree Fat Girl”

 

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Last week I spoke about what it takes to be a carefree fat girl. I got so much support from my readers.  Of course my Chicago people reached out however, I had some many other ladies comment on Instagram, twitter and Facebook saying how they wish they could live a more carefree life.  In the age of social media bullying it can be hard to grow your self confidence.  And sadly easier to have it torn down.

I reached out to a few plus size bloggers who with their style and personal mission are living life carefree.  Beside me telling you to block fat-shamers on social media or attending the theCurvyCon these ladies will offer you other options to a carefree fat life.

 

 

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“I’m a carefree fat girl because I value me, the mental and physical. The opposite of carefree is anxious and careful. Hunny, when I step onto the scene, adorned in whatever, I’m confident and very much so unapologetic.” Leah of beautyandthemuse.net

 

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Chasi of sweatinmascara.com “I’m an athlete and I do not wait on others to validate my passion for fitness. I love dance and I teach it passionately regardless of the size stereotypes and that makes me a carefree fat girl.”

 

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“I think you’re a carefree fat girl when you’ve created your own lane in plus size fashion and you can see that the success of other fat girls doesn’t represent your own failure. When you can lift others up and instead of tear others down, you’re truly carefree!” Alysse of readytostare.com

 

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Ashley “I know I’m a care free fat girl because I live by my own set of rules! No matter what anyone says about my weight, my clothes, my size, my aspirations…I do whatever makes me happy and feels good to my soul!”

 

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“To be a carefree fat girl you have to live and walk in your purpose apologetically. You can’t spend your days trying to fit your large frame in the world’s narrow view of beauty. Don’t let your weight decide what you can and cannot do. Dance as a fat girl, love as a fat girl, and live as a fat girl!” Faith.

 

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Darlene of suitsheelsandcurves.com “If you can look at yourself naked and smile at every curve, mark. lump and bump then you are a carefree fat girl.”

 

I want to thank all the ladies again for offering their feelings on what it takes to be a  carefree fat girl.  As you can see each has their on approach to happiness.  Personal joy can be achieved in many different ways.  Be sure too follow all of these influencers on social media for encouragement and style inspiration.

 

 

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Late To The Party

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I was on the phone with a friend the other day and she was telling me about this guy she just started talking too.  She told me he had never dated a “big girl” before.  She then went on to say he made a point to say how he was looking passed her size because she was so gorgeous.  Can we pause for a moment and insert side eye emoji.  He’s so late to the party.

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I had so many questions swirling around in my head.  For starters,  Where did you met this clown?  So I know where not to go.  My second question, Is he from Chicago?  Because midwest men love them some fluffy women.  They are well aware that thick thighs save lives.  Third, Girl are you really taking his backhanded compliment as a real compliment?  Honey is the thirst that real?   But that’s none of my business.  *sips tea*
At this point guys can stop saying they don’t date “big girls” as if we care.  I mean who’s mad not us!  Guys that feel that way are so late they’re not even invite to this party.  Never let anyone make you feel like they’re doing you a favor by dating you.  If plus size isn’t their preference it’s o.k..  It’s their lose not yours!  In life you must learn be happy with yourself.
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UniverSoul Circus fun for adults

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Pictured with Keyonda of arealurbanmom and her oldest son

 

I went to the UniverSoul Circus and I think I had more fun than the kids.  I’m so glad I went.  This was my first time going to the circus and I had a blast.  UniverSoul Circus is in Chicago Sept. 28-Oct. 30, 2016 and is sponsored by the  Black McDonald’s Operating Association of Chicago.  UniverSoul Circus is taking place in Washington Park (E. 51st Street and S. Cottage Grove, Chicago, IL 60615) and I’m here for it!

UniverSoul Circus was very interactive.  I felt like I was part of the show.  The big top was rocking with the music from all genres. The cast of international performers that had me on the edge of my seat.  There was so much happening that the only was to understand my excitement is to see the show yourself.  UniverSoul Circus’s approach to family friendly live entertainment was refreshing.

 

 

I can’t tell you which was my favorite act between comedy Dog Act from Chile, Aerial Duet from Colombia, Pagoda Bowl Acrobats from China, Airborne Motorcycles from California, Caribbean Dynasty from Trinidad and Tobago, Russian Bar from Cuba, Contortionists from Ethiopia or Magical Tigers I had so must fun.  UniverSoul Circus is fun for adults.  If you can go you should!

 

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Visit www.universoulcircus.com for more info, show times, and schedules.  Select discounts available here.  You can follow the UniverSoul Circus on Facbook,  Twitter and Instagram.  Or use the hashtags #bestcircusever & #universoulcircus to see all the fun.

 

 

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Outfit ideas for any sporting event

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I was lucky enough to score a pair of tickets to the the Chicago Bulls vs Cleveland Cavs game.  *insert emoji smile* The blogger in me thought black ball grown! Sounds about right!!  Just kidding , lol.  I was however  a little stuck on what to wear.  Should I be a super fan wearing Bulls gear from head to toe.  Or be extra with a floor length mink with Jimmy Choo shoes like a diva.  Chicago Bulls games have become a real fashion event.  And now that the Bulls have added Dwyane Wade to the team I could find myself seating shoulder to shoulder with his wife and Birth of Nation star Gabrielle Union.  If I’m having this issue how many other fashionable sports fan were?  I came up with a few looks that’ll cover all style mavens for any sporting event.

 

 

Super Fans Love Baseball

 

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Earring | Hat| Jacket | Lipstick Fan Hand | Watch | Jersey | BraceletShoes | Jeans

 

 

Fashionistas Love Basketballs

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Cape | Lipstick| Earrings | RingBracelet |  Blouse | Cell case | Purse | Pants | Shoes

 

 

Divas Love Basketballs 

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Wrap Coat | Bodysuit | Earrings | Lipstick Necklace | | Clutch | Pant | HeelsRing

Comment below with which style maven you are? Super fan, the fashionistas or the diva?

Your favorite plus size Chicago blogger will be snap chatting all the sports fun of course so be sure follow along @FatGirl_Fashion.

 

 

 

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Thursday Thoughts

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Thank you for all your support!

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#Nationalboyfriend and other lies

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So now everybody got a man.  O.K. 

So no one uses a filer.  O.K. 

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Everybody ballin’

Everybody super confident.

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So everybody a 80’s baby 

So everybody got a Lexus 

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Everybody down for the beard gang

Everybody needs a private page

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Don’t nobody buy pack hair. 

Don’t nobody wanna  fat girl.

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Everybody wearing red bottoms. 

Everybody vegan. 

Alright, I’m done calling out lies.  But somebody gonna call it hating. lol.

 

 

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Self Care | Winter Blues

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Fall has just arrived and I can already feeling the start of the winter blues.  The sun is disappearing sooner making way for dark evenings.  This season I’m being proactive with some of the things I’ll be doing to help my mood.  Here are a few things I’m doing to get started.

 

 

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Start doing daily affirmation journal.

Tell yourself great things about yourself.  Write down the great things people say about you to read later.  We easily tell others what we love about them but it’s harder to do the same for ourself.  So writing down what others find great about you will make it easier.

Shadow Flora Mini Notebook & Pen | Inspirations & Ideas Notebook |  Wild & Free Paperback Journal

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Hit the delete button on your social media feeds.          

We all have that one friend that is a Debbie downer.  Delete them!  You don’t have to see day after day these people and their sad Instagram post.  You are not required see their drama filled Facebook statuses.  Don’t read their woo is me tweets.  At the least mute them.

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Give your body attention.         

Wear things that feels great next to your skin.  Get a sexy grown to wear at night.  Moisture.  Dry skin gets itchy and will make you feel bad.  Self sooth.  Stroke yourself.  Look lovingly at yourself.  No one can make your body feel as good as you can.

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Fix things that annoy you. 

Fix that broken zipper, that wobbly table, change that light bulb that’s out.  Fixing these small things will give you a sense of accomplishment.  Change always starts off small.

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Be selfish.          

Get something that makes you happy.  It’s Monday stop and get a new dress.  On Wednesday get a clutch.  New shoes on Sunday, Why not!  Don’t go broke now, lol.  That’ll cause other problems.

CEGINUS DRESS | Faux Suede Fringe Booties  |  Mesh Envelope Clutch

 

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Get social.

Goof around for a bit.  Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.  Dance to your favorite song.  Shake your booty.  Have a good laugh even if it’s at yourself.

 

 

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You can follow this blog on Bloglovin here.  Also lately I’ve be doing most of my posting on snapchat@fatgirl_fashion. My snapchat friends were the first to know about the location I selected for my blog’s 3rd year anniversary brunch that happened on June 12th. They saw first hand my Beyonce’s Formation tour experience, and my NYC trip for theCurvycon.  I was in L.A. in August for BlogHer & some fun in the sun.  Then off to ATL for TCFStyleExpo.  Followed up by trip to Florida for the Black Enterprise Golf Tennis Challenge.  Be sure to follow me on snapchat so you don’t miss any of the action.  thefatgirloffashion.com can be found on InstagramFacebook and Twitter also.