5 Signs That You’re A Carefree Fat Girl

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1) You’re a carefree fat girl if you’ve ever been minding your on business and someone had something to say about what you were wearing.  And you responded with “If it comes in my size I’m going to wear it!

2) If you own a fatkini and live for the Summertime.  Then all signs point to you being a carefree fat girl.

3) You see another plus size cutie looking super fly and you don’t hate on her; instead you show her love.  You’re a true carefree fat girl.

4) If you’re been trolled by a fat-shammer on social media and you blocked them without breaking a sweat then you’re a carefree fat girl.

5) You make sure you spend time with other plus size girls.  You make sure to go to all the plus size kick backs.  If you’ve ever been to theCurvyCon than you’re definitely a carefree fat girl.

 

 

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I show body positive images to the world  with my pictures.  I also write this blog as to way to show I’m a carefree fat girl.

How do you show that you’re a carefree fat girl?

 

 

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Late To The Party

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I was on the phone with a friend the other day and she was telling me about this guy she just started talking too.  She told me he had never dated a “big girl” before.  She then went on to say he made a point to say how he was looking passed her size because she was so gorgeous.  Can we pause for a moment and insert side eye emoji.  He’s so late to the party.

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I had so many questions swirling around in my head.  For starters,  Where did you met this clown?  So I know where not to go.  My second question, Is he from Chicago?  Because midwest men love them some fluffy women.  They are well aware that thick thighs save lives.  Third, Girl are you really taking his backhanded compliment as a real compliment?  Honey is the thirst that real?   But that’s none of my business.  *sips tea*
At this point guys can stop saying they don’t date “big girls” as if we care.  I mean who’s mad not us!  Guys that feel that way are so late they’re not even invite to this party.  Never let anyone make you feel like they’re doing you a favor by dating you.  If plus size isn’t their preference it’s o.k..  It’s their lose not yours!  In life you must learn be happy with yourself.
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Thursday Thoughts

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Thank you for all your support!

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How Reebok Got It wrong With Gigi Hadid! 

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Before I jump out the window and lose any chance as a black Chicago blogger of getting a deal with Reebok.   I want to say the idea was good but the execution was poor.  With that being said Reebok’s new  “#PerfectNever” campaign got it all wrong and here’s why.

Reebok has Gigi Hadid fighting beauty standards as the new face of Reebok’s #PerfectNever campaign.  I have the sad task of tell the good people over at Reebok that Gigi Hadid is the beauty standard.

I have nothing against Gigi Hadid.  Honestly, I don’t think about Gigi at all.  I know the media has told me she the current it model.  To that I say girl get your check.  However to the people handing her the check have several seats.
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Anyone can see that Gigi embodies the media’s standard of beauty.  Reebok has her fighting against unrealistic standards of perfection.  In the campaign’s first video, super model is seen taking jabs directly at the camera, looking like everything a little girl would hope to look like on their wedding day let alone in the gym.  Before Hadid, Ronda Rousey was the sole face of the campaign.  Rousey was a good fit.  As a non traditional beauty she spoke to me.  Reebok having a tall, thin, blonde white international super model is falling on deaf ears.

Reebok says that Hadid fit with the campaign’s core values, which mix both fitness and empowerment.  *Crickets* “[Gigi Hadid] has always turned to fitness and exercise to stay grounded, to keep her mentally focused and give her daily motivation to push through adversity,” Dan Mazei, a senior director at Reebok, said in an interview. “We couldn’t be prouder of this relationship. We feel the story of #PerfectNever is written through the strength and tenacity of people like Gigi, and that we have the opportunity to inspire and empower millions of women around the world.”

I feel the need to insert Merriam-Webster definition of adversity here.

adversity

  • A difficult situation or condition : misfortune or tragedy

I feel now feel need to insert a snap shot of Gigi bio here.

Gigi Hadid was born and raised in Los Angeles to a real-estate developer (father) and former model (mother).  Hadid has two younger siblings who is also a model, and a brother. Hadid graduated from Malibu High School, where she was captain of the varsity volleyball team as well as a competitive horseback rider. She then moved to New York City to focus on her modeling career.

 

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It’s good that Reebok’s #PerfectNever campaign hopes to fights beauty standards.  However using the current standard barrier of beauty as that voice against main stream media is like me attending a weight watchers meeting being held inside an Old Country Buffet.  I mean no one in the ad office thought this was a bad idea?  If not they may want to diversify the people they’re using to help push their diversity message.

 

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#Nationalboyfriend and other lies

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So now everybody got a man.  O.K. 

So no one uses a filer.  O.K. 

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Everybody ballin’

Everybody super confident.

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So everybody a 80’s baby 

So everybody got a Lexus 

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Everybody down for the beard gang

Everybody needs a private page

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Don’t nobody buy pack hair. 

Don’t nobody wanna  fat girl.

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Everybody wearing red bottoms. 

Everybody vegan. 

Alright, I’m done calling out lies.  But somebody gonna call it hating. lol.

 

 

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Self Care | Winter Blues

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Fall has just arrived and I can already feeling the start of the winter blues.  The sun is disappearing sooner making way for dark evenings.  This season I’m being proactive with some of the things I’ll be doing to help my mood.  Here are a few things I’m doing to get started.

 

 

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Start doing daily affirmation journal.

Tell yourself great things about yourself.  Write down the great things people say about you to read later.  We easily tell others what we love about them but it’s harder to do the same for ourself.  So writing down what others find great about you will make it easier.

Shadow Flora Mini Notebook & Pen | Inspirations & Ideas Notebook |  Wild & Free Paperback Journal

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Hit the delete button on your social media feeds.          

We all have that one friend that is a Debbie downer.  Delete them!  You don’t have to see day after day these people and their sad Instagram post.  You are not required see their drama filled Facebook statuses.  Don’t read their woo is me tweets.  At the least mute them.

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Give your body attention.         

Wear things that feels great next to your skin.  Get a sexy grown to wear at night.  Moisture.  Dry skin gets itchy and will make you feel bad.  Self sooth.  Stroke yourself.  Look lovingly at yourself.  No one can make your body feel as good as you can.

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Fix things that annoy you. 

Fix that broken zipper, that wobbly table, change that light bulb that’s out.  Fixing these small things will give you a sense of accomplishment.  Change always starts off small.

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Be selfish.          

Get something that makes you happy.  It’s Monday stop and get a new dress.  On Wednesday get a clutch.  New shoes on Sunday, Why not!  Don’t go broke now, lol.  That’ll cause other problems.

CEGINUS DRESS | Faux Suede Fringe Booties  |  Mesh Envelope Clutch

 

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Get social.

Goof around for a bit.  Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.  Dance to your favorite song.  Shake your booty.  Have a good laugh even if it’s at yourself.

 

 

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You can follow this blog on Bloglovin here.  Also lately I’ve be doing most of my posting on snapchat@fatgirl_fashion. My snapchat friends were the first to know about the location I selected for my blog’s 3rd year anniversary brunch that happened on June 12th. They saw first hand my Beyonce’s Formation tour experience, and my NYC trip for theCurvycon.  I was in L.A. in August for BlogHer & some fun in the sun.  Then off to ATL for TCFStyleExpo.  Followed up by trip to Florida for the Black Enterprise Golf Tennis Challenge.  Be sure to follow me on snapchat so you don’t miss any of the action.  thefatgirloffashion.com can be found on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter also.

Reflecting On My Past On World Suicide Prevention Day

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September is National Suicide Prevention Month and today is World Suicide Prevention Day.  I want to talk about this issue because in my youth I had thoughts of suicide.  Looking back 20 years later I don’t know how serious I was then.  I do  know the thoughts were there and kept entering my mind.

As a teen my parents divorced.  My father was the sole provider and when he divorced my mom it felt like he divorced me, my brother and sister too.  I don’t know if he felt that he couldn’t afford to support us or if he just didn’t want to but his lack of support left all four of us homeless.  We were forced to move in with family.  I felt they way we were treated created a horrible situation in an already stressful time in my life.  I wanted to die.

I always lived life as person who treats people well.  Being in a situation were I felt I was being treated very bad I couldn’t deal with it.  I felt like I couldn’t really talk to my mom about my issues.  She was dealing with being a mother of 3 without any income.  She had been a stay-at-home mother who  occasionally worked at Christmas time to get my brother and I gifts.  To add to that my sister was a newborn when my father left.  I also know she was dealing with a broken heart in seeing her marriage fall about.

I’m thankful that I had living angels around to help my family.  People like my cousin Keisha and her mom.  They had me over so such it was like I lived with them.  I’m grateful for the love they poured on me when I was at what felt like my lowest point as a child.

The thought of ending your life is a thought that many people deal with and the feeling can be overwhelming.  I made the choice to live because I didn’t want to see my family in more pain in having to deal with my death.  I know some people can’t look pass their own pain to see how the loss of their life would harm others.  I’m here to say that life does get better.  The pain of today will slowly get better and you can find happiness again.

 

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It’s ok to seek help the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours a day 7 days a week.  Please call 1-800-273-8255  or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org for help.  If your need is general mental health care you can reach out to SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline at 1‑877‑726‑4727 to get general information on mental health and locate treatment services in your area. You can speak to a live person, Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. EST at that number or online at mentalhealth.gov.

 

There is no shame in getting help for mental health issue!

 

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I’m glad I made the choice to live.  I’m living a blessed life.  My family and friends are a great source of love and support for me.  I think about that young girl from my past and I’m thankful I didn’t let her end my bright future.
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You can follow this blog on Bloglovin here.  Also lately I’ve be doing most of my posting on snapchat@fatgirl_fashion. My snapchat friends were the first to know about the location I selected for my blog’s 3rd year anniversary brunch that happened on June 12th. They saw first hand my Beyonce’s Formation tour experience, and my NYC trip for theCurvycon.  I was in L.A. in August for BlogHer & some fun in the sun.  Then off to ATL for TCFStyleExpo.  Be sure to follow me on snapchat so you don’t miss any of the action.  thefatgirloffashion.com can be found on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter also.