What beauty standards are we leaving our children?

Beyonce offered a powerful look into the mind of many women with her song “Pretty Hurts.”  She sings “Mama said, “You’re a pretty girl. What’s in your head, it doesn’t matter Brush your hair, fix your teeth. What you wear is all that matters.”  I’m not saying that every women is raised to believe this but many have. Pushing our self esteem issues onto our children is a powerful thing.  We tell our girls what not “good” about themselves.  We focus on hair. Is it long and thick?  Does it have the right wave patten?  We focus on weight and size.  We push our own size issue onto the next generation.  Many of us do this unknowingly.  It’s done in how we address ourselves in front of our children.  Comments like “I look so fat in this” or “I need to lose weight, I’m so ugly.”  Our children see & hear how we treat ourselves and start treating themselves the same way.  How could a child every feel pretty when they know the person they look just alike doesn’t like the way they look.  Often times focusing on girls we forget out boys.  It’s important to note we tell our boys what to value as beautiful.

 

 

Dove has a short film they just released out called “Legacy”.  In the short Dove ask 5 pair of mothers and daughters to write a separate lists of what they like and don’t like about themselves.  My of the daughters were found the same body issues that their mother had with themselves.

Dove is asking women who they #FeelBeautifulFor .  This is Dove’s campaign for their 5th Self Esteem Weekend happening October 9 – 12.  The women of this generation should stop at ask ourselves “What beauty standards are we leaving our children?”

 

See the Dove Legacy short here.

 

 

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Thursday Thoughts

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Thank you for all your support!

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#Nationalboyfriend and other lies

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So now everybody got a man.  O.K. 

So no one uses a filer.  O.K. 

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Everybody ballin’

Everybody super confident.

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So everybody a 80’s baby 

So everybody got a Lexus 

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Everybody down for the beard gang

Everybody needs a private page

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Don’t nobody buy pack hair. 

Don’t nobody wanna  fat girl.

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Everybody wearing red bottoms. 

Everybody vegan. 

Alright, I’m done calling out lies.  But somebody gonna call it hating. lol.

 

 

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Self Care | Winter Blues

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Fall has just arrived and I can already feeling the start of the winter blues.  The sun is disappearing sooner making way for dark evenings.  This season I’m being proactive with some of the things I’ll be doing to help my mood.  Here are a few things I’m doing to get started.

 

 

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Start doing daily affirmation journal.

Tell yourself great things about yourself.  Write down the great things people say about you to read later.  We easily tell others what we love about them but it’s harder to do the same for ourself.  So writing down what others find great about you will make it easier.

Shadow Flora Mini Notebook & Pen | Inspirations & Ideas Notebook |  Wild & Free Paperback Journal

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Hit the delete button on your social media feeds.          

We all have that one friend that is a Debbie downer.  Delete them!  You don’t have to see day after day these people and their sad Instagram post.  You are not required see their drama filled Facebook statuses.  Don’t read their woo is me tweets.  At the least mute them.

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Give your body attention.         

Wear things that feels great next to your skin.  Get a sexy grown to wear at night.  Moisture.  Dry skin gets itchy and will make you feel bad.  Self sooth.  Stroke yourself.  Look lovingly at yourself.  No one can make your body feel as good as you can.

LACE BABYDOLL  | Day-to-Night Healthy Skin Set |  Venus Butterfly

 

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Fix things that annoy you. 

Fix that broken zipper, that wobbly table, change that light bulb that’s out.  Fixing these small things will give you a sense of accomplishment.  Change always starts off small.

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Be selfish.          

Get something that makes you happy.  It’s Monday stop and get a new dress.  On Wednesday get a clutch.  New shoes on Sunday, Why not!  Don’t go broke now, lol.  That’ll cause other problems.

CEGINUS DRESS | Faux Suede Fringe Booties  |  Mesh Envelope Clutch

 

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Get social.

Goof around for a bit.  Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.  Dance to your favorite song.  Shake your booty.  Have a good laugh even if it’s at yourself.

 

 

FYI:

You can follow this blog on Bloglovin here.  Also lately I’ve be doing most of my posting on snapchat@fatgirl_fashion. My snapchat friends were the first to know about the location I selected for my blog’s 3rd year anniversary brunch that happened on June 12th. They saw first hand my Beyonce’s Formation tour experience, and my NYC trip for theCurvycon.  I was in L.A. in August for BlogHer & some fun in the sun.  Then off to ATL for TCFStyleExpo.  Followed up by trip to Florida for the Black Enterprise Golf Tennis Challenge.  Be sure to follow me on snapchat so you don’t miss any of the action.  thefatgirloffashion.com can be found on InstagramFacebook and Twitter also.